Posts Tagged "daily practice"

0004: On enjoying my children (and vice versa)

0004: On enjoying my children (and vice versa)

I recently took a new job that requires me to be in an office 10 miles from home much of the day.  Prior to this, I worked from home for nearly 2 yrs.  My boys became accustomed to Daddy being “in the office” meant I was just upstairs.  The proximity allowed by working from home granted me privileges I only now realize I took for granted.  This has led to my pondering lately just how can I be a more mindful father, and what are the tactical things I can do to ensure they have time with me.  And more, to ensure that I’m present for that time, and I’m enjoying my time with them as well. Here are a few ideas that come to mind: Put my phone upstairs in my office when I come home (good time to change out of work clothes as well), and only focus on my kids for at least the first half hour I get home try to write down every day (end of day most likely) one new thing I learned about or enjoyed about my children (hopefully all of them) that day Have intentional conversation with my wife, at least twice per week but goal every day, asking specific questions about what the kids are doing daily and what observations she has made regarding their growth, emotional maturity, intellectual curiosity, etc Read to them whenever they ask for it, anytime, unless it’s physically not possible for safety reasons structure your day so that you can be home before dark – hard to do in the winter, sure, but it allows for time outside with them. for my two boys, this is where they thrive,. Find that one thing they love and can only get from you, and never go a week without giving them that thing.  For one of mine it’s tickles (at least now in THIS stage of life), and for the other I’m struggling to identify it, though it’s probably something to do with cars and trains.  Use the 1:1 time with the wife to help determine this thing. Write them a letter – consider the advice you’d like to impart to them at major life milestones.  Type the letter out, or store it in a way that you’ll remember, and date it – intend to give it to them when the time comes. (the app I discussed y’day would help with this!) Become their superhero – think of your “special power” and secretly let them in on it; help them come up with one of their own.  come up with ways that the two of you ‘save the world’, help Mom, be amazing people, and use it...

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0001: On becoming an Idea Machine…

The last 3 years, I’ve read over 3000 articles in blogs and traditional online media, and have attended well over 100 conferences and public networking events.  As a closet entrepreneur (still a “wantrepreneur” by some standards), much of my reading and networking is focused on finding my way out of the current ‘nest’ of a comfortable day job, and seeking a way to express myself in this not-so-new online world.  There have been a number of influencing voices I’ve listened to (my ‘virtual mentors’, as Michael Hyatt refers to them), from Ramit Sethi and Tim Ferris to Lewis Howes and John Lee Dumas – the list goes on.  All have served specific purposes, which I’m sure I’ll eventually write about, but few have come close to the constant value I receive from my now-favorite author, James Altucher.  A recurring theme among James’ writing over the years is the need, the requirement, to “exercise the idea muscle”.  I discovered this mantra about 6 months ago and it really spoke to me. I’ve been noodling the notion of how to best capture these ideas, but moreover how to actually stick to the challenge of writing down 10 new ideas per day for 6 months. James recently elaborated in great detail on the importance of this exercise, and I highly encourage you to go read his FAQ on How to become an Idea Machine.  Do it, now.  It’s the thesis for why I’m starting this website. So, it’s simple from here.  I intend to use this as a public forum where I post, daily, my idea muscle exercise(s).  I encourage you to chime in.  Elaborate on an idea.  Better yet, execute on one!  Let me know how it goes.  I’m sure there’s a legal way to do this, but I submit all ideas here free of copyright or patent (unless I later submit for a specific patent that you didn’t beat me to).  If you see something I think up which sparks an interest for you, run with it!  Let me know if I can help, but certainly don’t wait around to see if I ever turn an idea into something more.  This canvas will serve the singular purpose for me of forcing (through social pressure if nothing else) daily habitual idea generation.  10List.co is a repository for this daily practice:  come up with [at least] 10 new ideas. every. day.  Perhaps it could become yours as well, someday.  I trust James when he says that it will create increase in my life.  Please do let me know if it creates increase in yours.  That, too, would bring me great joy....

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